If you look around the world after you've been studying the law of
attraction for awhile, you'll see an interesting and rather amusing
phenomenon: people see you differently than you see yourself. So, in
this article, I propose a radically different way of looking at the
world: trying to see yourself through the eyes of people that idolize
you or are jealous of you in order to take their positive statement and
use it to improve your state of attraction. If you're saying, "what?" in
your head, please read on, as this will rock your world. And if not,
you'll probably still be pleased.
For the longest time, I didn't think anyone looked up to me or thought of me as someone who could inspire jealousy. I thought very lousily of myself; however, like everyone, there are certain areas of my life wherein I excel. I have a tremendous ability to think abstractly and to debate abstract concepts against one another, which is why I'm very good at philosophy and rhetoric, which my academic training is focused in. However, this ability, much to my horror, inspires a jealous attitude from too many of my classmates (and the occasional professor) as well as laypeople. However, it's very frustrating to me because my entire goal in life is to push people to compete with only themselves and to better themselves beyond their wildest dreams.
And though it used to bother me, now I take it as the compliment it could be. After all, if they're actually jealous (maybe, I'm misreading the situation... it's definitely a possibility at least some of the time), then they're bothered by a trait I have that they can see I have honed to a high degree, and they want it. In clear English, if a person is jealous, it's because they want a skill they perceive you as having to a high degree (or of course a thing that you own, person you date, etc; however, herein, we're focusing on traits). So, somewhere in the jealousy is a compliment: you have a mastered a skill to a point that it causes me to want to be as skilled as you (and reminds me of my own failings).
Or far too often, I encounter men that think I'm a seducer to the level of Casanova because my roommates are a lesbian couple. It couldn't just be Platonic, I must be living out this male fantasy of having multiple girlfriends simultaneously. So much so that some people like our building's maintenance man think that I'm dating one or both of the girls and refuses to acknowledge anything to the contrary. Or the owner of a nearby business who offered me the unsolicited advice that all it'd take to make them both my girlfriends would be a little red wine...
And again, rather than get offended at this, I can look at it as a compliment. These men are telling me that they're envious and that they believe I'm capable of swinging two girlfriends. They believe in my ability to seduce people more than I do!
Finally, there are a few people in my life who let me know how much they respect me for certain things I do. And they to my surprise express that rather than holding them back, I inspire them to do something to improve themselves.
Now, don't get me wrong, I definitely still have parts that are not enviable in anyway-and that's one of the great things about this idea: people don't envy or respect me for my codependent or overly sacrificing attitude in romantic relationships: they envy or respect me for things they see me doing well.
Though my examples were kind of silly, they're helpful to me right now in the clearing I need to do. But now it's time for you to go deep inside and think to yourself: what do you do really well? What do you do that inspires awe or jealousy in others? Even if it's mundane and stupid like you're the best Dungeons and Dragons player in your circle of friends, take note of the way that people feel about you and harness it: you're amazing at that and you know it because other people are expressing it to you. Remember that others believe this about you and tell yourself this all the time.
For the longest time, I didn't think anyone looked up to me or thought of me as someone who could inspire jealousy. I thought very lousily of myself; however, like everyone, there are certain areas of my life wherein I excel. I have a tremendous ability to think abstractly and to debate abstract concepts against one another, which is why I'm very good at philosophy and rhetoric, which my academic training is focused in. However, this ability, much to my horror, inspires a jealous attitude from too many of my classmates (and the occasional professor) as well as laypeople. However, it's very frustrating to me because my entire goal in life is to push people to compete with only themselves and to better themselves beyond their wildest dreams.
And though it used to bother me, now I take it as the compliment it could be. After all, if they're actually jealous (maybe, I'm misreading the situation... it's definitely a possibility at least some of the time), then they're bothered by a trait I have that they can see I have honed to a high degree, and they want it. In clear English, if a person is jealous, it's because they want a skill they perceive you as having to a high degree (or of course a thing that you own, person you date, etc; however, herein, we're focusing on traits). So, somewhere in the jealousy is a compliment: you have a mastered a skill to a point that it causes me to want to be as skilled as you (and reminds me of my own failings).
Or far too often, I encounter men that think I'm a seducer to the level of Casanova because my roommates are a lesbian couple. It couldn't just be Platonic, I must be living out this male fantasy of having multiple girlfriends simultaneously. So much so that some people like our building's maintenance man think that I'm dating one or both of the girls and refuses to acknowledge anything to the contrary. Or the owner of a nearby business who offered me the unsolicited advice that all it'd take to make them both my girlfriends would be a little red wine...
And again, rather than get offended at this, I can look at it as a compliment. These men are telling me that they're envious and that they believe I'm capable of swinging two girlfriends. They believe in my ability to seduce people more than I do!
Finally, there are a few people in my life who let me know how much they respect me for certain things I do. And they to my surprise express that rather than holding them back, I inspire them to do something to improve themselves.
Now, don't get me wrong, I definitely still have parts that are not enviable in anyway-and that's one of the great things about this idea: people don't envy or respect me for my codependent or overly sacrificing attitude in romantic relationships: they envy or respect me for things they see me doing well.
Though my examples were kind of silly, they're helpful to me right now in the clearing I need to do. But now it's time for you to go deep inside and think to yourself: what do you do really well? What do you do that inspires awe or jealousy in others? Even if it's mundane and stupid like you're the best Dungeons and Dragons player in your circle of friends, take note of the way that people feel about you and harness it: you're amazing at that and you know it because other people are expressing it to you. Remember that others believe this about you and tell yourself this all the time.
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